Angst HOOOOOO!
This past weekend was a total pile of angst and it was actually pretty therapeutic. Now, typically I'd be all emo and put this as a friends-only post but I think there's no real point to that. In fact, I'm even going to use NAMES in this one (which I don't typically do) to get the point across, because while I'm not confrontational, someone's really pissing me off and I'm hoping they'll get wind of this.
We know this fellow named Jayson (or Jay, if you prefer). Jay is a living persona. He never shows anyone what he's really like. He postures and lies to make people think he's something he's not. It all came to a boiling point this weekend. Jay's ex-girlfriend Rainy just moved back to Ottawa and that's where this all begins. Ready kiddies? Right, so earlier in the day on Saturday, Jay spends a good portion of the day spamming my good friend Meer with MSN messages. Meer completely ignores him. Jay then sends him an IM accusing Mer of thinking that he was going to cheat on his current GF with Rainy. Funny, no one ever mentionned that... conscience, anyone?
Afterwards, he showed up at my friend Amanda's place and commandeered her computer. I showed up around 9pm. When I got there, Amanda's boyfriend Adam was out with some friends, but he came how shortly after I got there. Then, our buddy Dros showed up. This sets the first scene. Sometime later, Jay says something silly like "It's impossible to be cheap in a game" (which is BS, he's the king of being cheap at games). Dros tries to explain the opposite side of the arguement but every time he speaks, Jay cuts him off with something stupid. Dros decides that he'll try a different approach. He tells jay to just be quiet and look at him so he can make a point. Jay mocks him at this point and before you know it, Dros snaps and slaps Jay across the face. We give Dros a beer to help him calm down, he goes upstairs for a bit to cool off and Jay sits in a chair, crying. (We later found out that Jay claimed to have punched him back. Didn't happen.)
Anyway, to avoid awkwardness, Dros half-heartedly apologises and things are quiet for the rest of the night. Around 2:30am, Jay and one of his buddies decide to take off. Jay goes to Meer's place and his friend goes home. We hang out a while and later, as we're going to bed, Jay shows up at the door. He comes in and goes to sleep after posturing about how Meer's lying about everyone not liking him and that Meer's lucky he didn't beat the shit out of him.
Anyway, the next day, we add our friend Peacimowen to our little party and head off to Meer's to greet Rainy. We all get there and as soon as we do, Meer looks at Jay and says "You. Gone." and tells him he's not welcome at his house. Apparently, showing up at 3:30 in the morning was pushing it too far. We all go in (me not feeling the least bit awkward, actually) and then we all go and hang out. When Rainy arrives, we find out that when Jay arrived, Rainy got out of bed to go talk to him and Meer was asleep (so much for kicking the shit out of him.) We find out that Jay came on to rainy (not the other way, as we were told by him) and that she asked him "What did you do?" because she knew everyone was fed up with him. We spent the next while completely debunking Jay's story and letting Rainy know some of the things he's done to piss us off. I'll list them here:
-Emotional Manipulation - Whenever Jay is turned away from somewhere, he takes his time getting home and then comes online and weaves an intricate lie about getting mugged or jumped. Always in the most unlikely of places (like in a park with no trees in a good neighbourhood). He's done this to Rainy, his gf Kara and to Amanda, at least. One time he even claimed to have cut himself because of it (see? I told you there would be LJ-style emo bullshit). We can't see any scars. He makes people feel bad for saying 'no' to him.
-Lies - He lies about everything. He seems to think he's the emotional lead character in an Anime or Final Fantasy game. He postures constantly, frequently tries to make himself look important or makes himself the centre of attention. He fabricates or twists stories to make him sound tough or to absolve himself from blame.
-Overly Sexual - Jay has cheated on people in his last handful of relationships. When he was with Rainy, he cheated on her. When he was with his next girlfriend, Maya (the one he cheated on Rainy with) he cheated on HER with Rainy. Sometime in that period, he cheated on whoever he was with at least one more time. Now he expects us to not expect him to cheat on his current gf. His track record is terrible.
-Thievery - Jay used to be famous for performing B&E's all over the place. He done at least 12, including but not limited to utility sheds, schools and sports arenas. He currently claims to be done with it but he recently told Dros that he was planning some more B&E's with his friend Nanashi. He's also stolen booze that my friend Adam and I bought and drank most if not all of it. He also never takes the blame, which is the next point.
-Scapegoating - Jay tends to place the blame squarely on others when he does something wrong. He's been arrested or detained about 3 times in the last year and a bit and every time, he's blamed it on my friend Cal, who used to run with him. The first time I saw him detained, he was running into the Rideau centre with Cal, waving a pocket knife around. He claims that he was putting his away but Cal still had his out and that's why they got caught. He also accuses the Rideau Centre security with falsely charging him. The next time he was arrested was when he and Cal were filming something and they walked onto school property. Jay claims they were arrested because Cal was throwing garbage at the students. Cal claims he never did. The third time was in Kingston. I don't know what he was caught for but he's been to court several times. He claims that Cal was responsible for that, even though he wasn't there. He claims it was Cal's influence that made him do it.
Mooching - Jay has a tendency to turn up unannounced and then expects people to feed him, give him drinks and a place to crash. He used to do this to Amanda all the time. He'd turn up sometime mid-afternoon and hang out. Later he'd ask for a drink. When she'd say 'yes' that was like opening the floodgate. After that, he assumed it was a given that he was allowed to get drinks any time. Later, he'd ask for food. He'd be offered pogo's or something but he'd see Pizza Pockets in the freezer and want those. He'd bitch about it if they didn't give them to him. After they go to bed, he tends to raid their fridge. He ate an entire tub of their ice-cream, once.
As you can see, he's not a good person and most of us really, really don't like him. Rainy still does. Apparently she's seen him the way he's like when he's not posturing, but still, she's annoyed with how he's making enemies out of everyone. He's been coming on MSN lately acting like nothing happened. Whatever did or will happen, I hope he ends up reading this, I really do. I'm totally fed-up with him.
-Ironklaw







